A Journey to Liking Myself

Ten years ago I couldn’t stand to be alone. My kids were 10 and 12 and when they were in school I would go walking or shopping or call my mom. I didn’t like to spend time by myself. And if I WAS alone I had the TV playing or music on but never, ever just quiet.

Why would a person NOT like spending time alone? I mean really? When I am alone I can eat whatever I want without anyone looking at me funny. I can watch crappy, sentimental TV or dance around my house naked. It’s pure freedom!

I think the honest answer is that I didn’t like myself very much. I had everything a girl could want: A husband who supported me, two kids, a couple of dogs, the white picket fence. But I just wasn’t happy. ┬áI was fat and lonely and the negative voice inside my head was loud and opinionated. She kept telling me what I “should” be doing. She yelled that I “needed to” be the perfect wife, mom and home-maker. I could never measure up.

I also didn’t know who I really was. I was just going along in life but I wasn’t really engaged. I was busy trying to be who I thought other people wanted me to be. I gave someone else all the credit for the good stuff and blamed myself for all the bad stuff.

Today I’m a hot mess. I’m a glitter-filled, bundle of energy and joy, who can’t wait to get up in the morning and encourage, uplift and sparkle on everyone I meet. I LOVE life and all of it’s possibilities. I can’t wait to find out what good stuff each day is going to bring and what I will learn from it.

But how did I get from there to here? That’s a really good question. It was a really long process. I started by taking care of myself. I used to be last on the list and that’s not a recipe for success. So step one was that I moved myself to the top of the list and started exercising and eating better.

Step two was that I started listening to the smaller voice that whispers inside of me instead of the loud, bitchy voice. And know what? The quiet voice had the best answers:

Go take a long, hot bath, It’s ok to take care of yourself for a change.

If you don’t want to do something say NO – don’t just say yes because you think people will judge you.

Start speaking your truth. If people really love you they will listen.

Stop apologizing for things you’re not really sorry for or things that you didn’t do.

It’s ok NOT to be friends with people you really don’t like.

Forgive yourself – yes, even the really crappy stuff you did.

Step three involved a lot of self inquiry. I asked myself really deep questions about what I believe, how I want to live my life and whether it was ok to be miserable all the time or make some changes that would lift me up. I had to examine everything that I had held true for over 40 years and come up with answers that truly reflect ME.

I wish I could have liked myself more earlier. It would have saved me a lot of time. But that’s what life is all about right? I am learning lessons along the way? Sharing those lessons with others? Being REAL and Sharing the uncomfortable stuff because we ALL have crap we deal with.

I hope if you’re suffering today with not really liking yourself that you can find some small thing about yourself to appreciate. That you can find a way to start taking care of yourself because┬áNOT liking yourself is very lonely and it affects all of the people in your life.

I can’t wait to see you fall in love with yourself! You can do it!

Hugs, Dawn

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Yogi becomes Personal Trainer

Oh my Gosh! I did it!……I’ve been having lots of these moments lately. Moments where I absolutely amaze myself and reach an achievement that seemed previously impossible!

Such was my reaction when I recently passed my Certified Personal Trainer test through NASM. I couldn’t believe it! Don’t get me wrong. I’m a good student and I worked really hard, studied and crammed like I did in college and then when I found out I passed the test I had that OMG moment!

I also had that moment this morning when I finished my four mile non-stop hike carrying a backpack with weights in it. 15 pounds might not sound like a whole lot but after four miles that 15 pounds multiplies to about 60! I was never so glad in my life to get that thing off of my back!

I had that moment again when I accomplished headstand. When I finally got inverted and raised my feet up to the ceiling I was so excited I almost fell out of the pose!

It’s nice to know that OMG moments are still possible. That I’m still capable of surprising myself and able to reach new goals that I never thought I’d be able to attain! Life is such a wonderful journey! It’s full of growth – if you reach for it. Fun if you seek it, and Holy Cow, OH my word, and Can You believe it – jaw dropping moments that may throw you for a loop!

I hope You continue to learn, grow and seek. Life is out there – reach for it, savor it and have a few Oh My Gosh moments of your own!

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