We have a decision to make in every interaction that we have in life and it’s simple. You can choose Love or you can choose Fear. If someone gets in your face and is belligerent, you can choose to smack them upside the head OR you can choose to let it flow off your back and say a silent prayer for them. When someone cuts you off in traffic you can flip them the bird OR you can choose to believe that they may have an emergency to get to. And if things just don’t seem to be going your way you can give up OR you can choose to believe that something better is on it way!
I know it seems like a small choice. It is. But if you consistenly choose Love over Fear your life will be a whole hell of a lot happier and easier. But what does each word mean? What does Love encompass (besides the obvious) and what does Fear stand for?
Love = Happiness, Hope, Faith, Trust, Forgiveness, Looking for the Silver Lining, Believing it will get better, Taking care of our self, Believing the best of others, Letting people in front of you in line, Giving, Sharing, Talking to the Homeless, Holding the door open, saying YES when appropriate, Calling your mother, Believing in Abundance, Helping others, Believing in yourself and rooting yourself on with “I got this!”
Fear = Jealousy, Anger, Throwing a fit, Creating drama, Gossip, Pouting, Dishonesty, Being negative, Scarcity, Us vs. Them thinking, Isolation, Perfectionism, Addiction, Not being your real self, Worry, Selfishness (not self-care), “I can’t”, Thinking you are better than anyone else, Hoarding, And I’m going to add Depression because I’ve been deep in it and I know how fearful I was.
These lists are not complete by any means. They are just what I could come up with quickly off the top of my head. When you are in the moment to choose, you’ll know which category you’ve chosen. Just remember that saying “no” to others can mean saying “yes” to yourself and that is definitely choosing LOVE. And there is a difference between taking care of yourself and being constantly self centered – which is not choosing love.
No matter what, it’s always a good idea to stop, breathe and think before reacting. Our life and our world is a reflection of our actions but none of us are perfect. We won’t always make the right choice. So if you mess up, choose Love and forgive yourself and move on!