Did they hear me? Did I get my message across? Do they KNOW how wonderful and awesome they are? These are questions that have been running in circles in my head this last week. As I prepare to make big life changes and move away from my kids, students and friends for an unknown amount of time I find myself scurrying to put to paper all the things I want to share before I go!!!! There’s so much to say and so little time!!! So here are a few nuggets. Please take what is helpful and leave the rest.
Love Yourself – Everything else flows from this. You MUST learn to love yourself, make time for yourself, spend time with yourself and care about what happens to yourself! YOU have to be your own best advocate! You have to take care of your health – physical and mental – especially moms. I have been a mom who put herself last on the list. The list looked like this: kids, spouse, church, house, school activities, community activities, friends and then maybe me. Let me just tell you that being last on the list did not make for a healthy person. And also, what kind of example was I showing my daughter because I certainly don’t want her to grow up and feel that her place is last on the list. What I learned is that children hear your words but they copy what you DO. So, make time for you! Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Take time out. Take a class or go hiking. Do whatever it is that you miss doing B.C. (Before Children) It is not selfish to take care of yourself so that you then have energy to share with others.
Remember Life is SHORT – Live it NOW – If there is something you’ve always wanted to do start making plans to do it NOW. Write it on the calendar, plan time off work, get a sitter and go DO that thing. You do not want to come to the end of your life with a bunch of regrets. I know you’ve heard this before and it may not seem like it right now while your baby won’t sleep through the night and your toddler still isn’t potty trained but PLEASE believe me – it goes by in a flash! MY kids are 18 and 20 and it seems like 5 years ago they were entering kindergarten. Go out and live a little! Don’t wait for “someday.” Make your life Epic!
Live Simply – I used to have a big house, with three sets of silverware because you know, you must have the fancy stuff for holidays, the everyday stuff and also the camping bakelite too! At one point I event had 7 different Christmas trees – One for each room – some small, some big but HOLY Christmas! And you know what? All of that stuff I owned didn’t make me happier. It didn’t keep me from getting divorced and It didn’t define who I was a person. Have less stuff, spend more time with your kids, bake cookies, work on your relationship, go for walks instead of driving all the time, don’t use credit cards, only keep the clothes you actually wear. Donate or give away all the rest and watch how much more freedom you have! We spend WAY too much money and time buying and caring for THINGS. Keep life simple.
Breathe Deeply – Get your butt off the couch! I don’t care what you do or how you do it – just move. Whatever it is that makes you feel groovy do THAT. I love yoga, riding my bicycle, roller skating, dancing, hiking and I even just started to learn how to long board. Get outside, increase your heart rate, breathe deeply. It’s magic. It will help you think clearer. It will keep you healthier. It will help you reconnect with mother nature and your own inner joy.
Travel Lightly – Where ever you go on this earth use only what you need. Pack it in and pack it out. Bring only a backpack. You really don’t need all that extra shit. You think you do, but you don’t. Get out and see the world! If you can’t travel around the world, travel around your country. If you can’t do that, travel around your state or city. Meet people, start conversations. Build a community. Travel will help you to learn that everyone wants LOVE and BELONGING. Everyone wants peace and happiness. Everyone longs for their children to have a better life that they had. We’re not all that much different. Travel will help you see that we all are one.
Be Brave – Step out of your comfort zone and try something new. Maybe that’s bungee jumping or sky diving? Maybe it’s just speaking your truth. Maybe it’s taking a risk to be vulnerable with someone. Maybe it’s saying those three little words “I Love You”. Maybe it’s kicking up into a handstand! There are lots of ways to be brave throughout life. Being brave is a choice and it’s something we can practice. Start small and then move up to the more difficult. The rewards in confidence and self-esteem are totally worth it, I promise!
Remember How Glorious You Are! – In yoga we have a salutation that is Namaste – which means (roughly) “The light in me bows to the light in you and recognizes that we come from the same source.” We all have a divine spark within us – a soul, a spirit, an energy that makes us WHO we are. WE are special! We are unique, broken, gifted, challenged, talented in our own wonderful combination of ways. I believe that we all are here for a reason. That we have a purpose that we are here to accomplish and that only YOU can accomplish it! YOU have a purpose, YOU are special, YOU are LOVED, YOU belong. You are ENOUGH just as you are – today, right now, in this moment.
Well, that’s all I have for now. Thanks for taking the time to read. I am so blessed to be a mother to my beautiful children, to have found the path of yoga and to have students who come to my classes. I love this life. I am so happy to share it with all of you and I look forward to many more years of travel, growing, learning and practicing with y’all. Truly, Namaste